YOUR MARITAL HEALTH/WIVES’ SEXUALITY: MS. MYTH – RESEARCHERS ABOUT THE INTERCOURSE MYTH
Researcher Helen Singer Kaplan writes that lack of orgasm during intercourse “may represent a normal variant of female sexuality. ” If focus is exclusively on orgasm rather than psychasm, one would be hard pressed to understand why intercourse is so popular I with women other than for closeness and intimacy. Of the 1,000 women, 823 reported psychasms in intercourse at five-year follow-up. “Once I learned the difference and stopped working for just something in my genitals, I started to really have orgasms, I mean psychasms.” This wife’s report was typical of those women who learned, as did their husbands, that orgasm and psychasm are dif- I ferent. Brain-wave patterns change during psychasm, and even I Masters and Johnson, the third-perspective researchers, state that “the mind turns inward to enjoy the personal experience.”
The early perspectives of sex research mistook physiology for psychology. Masters and Johnson write, “The subjective experience of orgasm in men starts quite consistently with the sensation of deep warmth or pressure that corresponds to ejaculatory inevitability.” In women, Masters and Johnson report the subjective aspects of “orgasm” as a “pleasurable feeling that usually begins in the clitoris and rapidly spreads throughout the pelvis.” The women in the thousand marriages reported such sensations as “an altered state of consciousness,” “being free from everything,” “sort of merging, actually being my husband,” and being “lost, tripped out, gone but more here than ever.”
Contractions in the pelvic area accompany orgasm in both genders. Both male and female experience the anal sphincter contractions. There is a physiological phase of being “on the brink,” of being about to experience pelvic contractions. Masters and Johnson saw women as not experiencing a sexual “brink.” They write, “Women do not have a consistendy identifiable point of orgasmic inevitability.” The women in my couples group did in fact report the sensation of a “brink,” and inevitability of physical orgasm. Four hundred twenty-two of them reported this phenomenon “always,” and a total of 644 wives reported this brink sometimes.
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