PREMATURE EJACULATION – PSYCHOLOGY
In Dr Masters’s clinic the first four days are arranged so that the couple can learn about their sexual anatomy and sexual function. They talk to each other about sexual matters. They learn to touch each other and to pleasure each other. Only when these preliminaries have been completed does the specific therapy for the specific problem begin. During the preliminary phase, the time given to ‘sensate focus’ exploration is especially important. In the later stages of this period, the woman is encouraged to find out which form of genital stimulation the man most appreciates. He may prefer her to caress his penis with her fingers, or with her mouth, or to place his penis between her breasts. If this stimulation leads to ejaculation it does not matter, for the couple are exploring each other’s bodies and minds. At this stage, the man is instructed to be selfish and pay no attention to the woman’s sexual needs. Instead, he must concentrate exclusively on the pleasurable erotic sensations coming from his stimulated penis. He shuts his eyes, he keeps his hands still, and he concentrates on his erotic fantasies and on what he is feeling. In this way, the threat to his sexuality is reduced, as he knows that the woman is happily helping him to overcome his sexual problem, which will in turn help her to obtain greater sexual joy.
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